The Courage to Be Disliked: 6 key ideas
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- IDEA 1 OF 6
Goals over causes
Adlerian psychology focuses less on what caused your behaviour and more on what it is for.
Ask what purpose a feeling or habit serves right now.
- IDEA 2 OF 6
Separate tasks
Ask whose task it is.
How others judge you is their task, not yours. Stop carrying tasks that belong to other people.
- IDEA 3 OF 6
All problems are relationship problems
Most suffering comes from comparing ourselves with others.
Replace competition with seeing others as comrades.
- IDEA 4 OF 6
Freedom means being disliked
If you never accept being disliked, you will live by others' expectations.
Freedom costs some disapproval.
- IDEA 5 OF 6
Contribute to feel worth
A sense of worth comes from feeling useful to others, not from praise.
Contribution can be quiet and invisible.
- IDEA 6 OF 6
Live here and now
Life is a series of moments, not a line to a destination.
Shine a light on the present instead of waiting for later.
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